If you are planning on doing music there are some out there who are smart enough to realize the obvious road road block, like management, agency, labels, and other band members. But there always one road block that catches most performers of guard. That road block is the unsupportive spouse/mate. The one who will sabotage what you are doing. And sometimes these events are minor and others are major ones.
Minor one are forgetting to do something for like mail a letter for a competition or bring an instrument to the performance that you forgot. Major events are ones like having a fight with you just before a major performance, hacking away at your self-confidence like telling you that you are delusional, or that you not going to make it.
There are several reasons for these cheat shot. Self preservation (if you get rich and famous you won't want me anymore), jealous of what you are doing, Competitive (You can't do something better than me) and last but not least selfishness which is probably the biggest one out there.
It is going to be hard but you have to stand up for you career, your goals , and your dreams. If the other person can't accept what you are doing now, they are not going to accept later when you are making a fortune.
I write this from personal experience and I struggle with it every day. So I try to work through it but every time it happens it gets worst. It is good to have someone on the out side who can be of support. That makes it a little more easier to cope but you have to decide for yourself which road you have to take. One of those roads might be to leave the relationship.
Some mates will never see the light or the damage they are causing through their words. They are too ignorant or too self-centered.
I hope this help
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